One thing that you get used to as a parent is that everything you do and everything you say is ‘wrong’ according to someone. Even the things you do right for yourself or your child, they’re probably not right for anyone else. Some of the world is okay with letting you know you’re doing it all wrong right to your face, while others just sit and judge in silence. But, when it comes to parenting, you kind of have to go with the flow, pick your battles and just do whatever the hell works for you.
And so it kind of is with blogging.
I’ve been blogging for like, what, almost 2 years now? I’ve been writing for much longer. And the first hard lesson I’ve had to learn is that there will ALWAYS be critics. No matter what my opinion is, someone out there will disagree either with the opinion itself or its delivery in general.
I write this blog in the way that I think in my head. I’m one of those people that speaks as she thinks, so my spoken word comes out kind of shitty. But give me 30 minutes to put it on paper, edit it and finalize it, and it might come out pretty good. I also tend to think in snark and sarcasm. Call me glass-half-empty, but I tend to always find the stupid in people and in situations in general. If you do something dumb, I’ll probably make fun of you…but I fully expect you to reciprocate when I earn it (and I will, oh, I will).
I’m not sure if anyone noticed, but I went on hiatus in July. I made a few posts here and there, but mostly there were just crickets on this blog. And I kind of blamed it on the fact that I was pregnant and working and had a toddler and o.m.g. why is life so hard. But, in reality, I was really fucking pissed off.
I am 100% okay with people not agreeing with me, or not doing exactly as I do. In fact, I thrive on it because then it gives me more material to write about. Like this lady, or Suzy Weiss, or people that do things like this guy. I HAVE SO MANY OPINIONS. And that’s fine if you don’t have the same one and want to let me know it. But I draw the line at childless 20-somethings telling me I need to “take a good look in the mirror” and try to “change myself” in response to my voice on this PARENTING blog, aka this “LiveJournal that I pay money for.” (What?) And doing so on my personal Facebook page. For all of my friends/family/coworkers to see.
To those people, I’d just like to say: Listen, douchey, it might be douchey to point out when other people are being douchey (which is how I roll), but you just look extra douchey when you don’t realize I’m being douchey on purpose. And you are the only one who didn’t get the funnies.
Have I ever mentioned that I am a grudge-y grudge holder?
Anyway, I bring all this up because over the last few months, I’ve done quite a bit of pondering over whether or not I was going to continue blogging here. Is it worth it to get angry and irritated with people who write asshole comments on blog posts? Do I want to spend time defending my snark and clarifying every time I make a g.d. joke?? After “taking a good look in the mirror”, my answer is…YES. Because I’m not going to let critics silence my voice. For every person that hates what I write, there may be another person who loves it. So all the haters, well they can just keep on hatin’. Or whatever. (Just do it in the comments down below or on the blog’s fan page, not on my personal Facebook page – capisce?)
Finally, my real point here is, in honor of my decision to toughen up and grow thicker blog skin, I’m joining in on Blogher’s NaBloPoMo, where I have committed to blogging every day for the month of November. So get ready, you bastards. There are going to be SO MANY OPINIONS coming your way for the next 30 days!!!!11!!eleven!