Shit Parent, by Default

Have you heard about the default parent? The post went viral recently, and the author #nailedit. Seriously, it’s one of those blog posts that just makes most parents quietly sigh, “Yessss.” Even reading it aloud to my husband last night, he agreed. Every family, we’ve decided, must be functioning like this to some degree – including us. However, M. Blazoned put this much more eloquently than I ever could have. The hubs and I have been talking about this concept a lot lately, before we even stumbled onto this “Default” theory. Except, I have defined two roles in our family: the fun parent and the shit parent. The latter is a noun, not an adjective and should not be confused with “shitty” ... Read the full post.

No time. There’s never any time!

We are tired parents. So, what does a working mom of a 2 year old and a newborn have to do in a day? Since you asked, here’s my day in have-to’s: I have to hit snooze, at least 3 times. Have to shower and blow dry my hair without waking up these kids. Where’s the coffee? I have to remember to brush my teeth after this cup of coffee. I have to nurse the baby. Have to get the kids dressed. I have to find Charlie’s other boot. Where the fuck is the other boot?! Have to let the dogs out. Have to get out of the house by 7:15. Did I pay the daycare bill? Shit, have to write that check. Where are the fucking envelopes?! Gotta have another cup of coffee. Thank god for Dunkin Donuts. We’ ... Read the full post.

This mom is a working mom.

Remember that time I got all ragey, quit my job and was a stay at home mom for like 17 seconds? When I got a great job offer, I immediately went right back to work. And ever since, I have grappled with the fact that I am “missing” huge chunks of my children’s lives. Am I doing the right thing by working outside the home? Does it make me a crappy mom? Paying copious amounts of money for daycare for two children, combined with the fact that I know firsthand how quickly Nora’s infancy is going to FLY by, has led me to contemplate (once again) becoming a stay at home mom. What’s the point of going back to work anyway, if I pay out my salary to daycare? Oh, the moments I would cherish, the memories I could relish. A ... Read the full post.

American University Professor: Bad Parent, Bad Employee, or Both?

Recently, this story about an American University professor breastfeeding her sick child in front of her class caused quite the media stir. In summary, the article explains that the single-parent/professor opted to bring her child to work with her since she could not be sent to daycare due to a high fever and she was incapable of finding other adequate care. The author notes, “The baby, in a blue onesie, crawled on the floor of the lecture hall during part of the 75-minute class two weeks ago, according to the professor’s account. The mother extracted a paper clip from the girl’s mouth at one point and shooed her away from an electrical outlet. A teaching assistant held the baby and rocked her at times, volunteering to help even t ... Read the full post.

Not Cut Out For This.

Recently, my son became mobile. This evokes an array of emotions in me – excitement (in seeing him grow up), sadness (in seeing him grow up), paranoia (in that he may get hurt), and pride (in his learning and success). But his new-found mobility has also taught me that I am NOT cut out to be a stay at home mother. Case in point: the following photo was taken just seconds before Charlie fell backward and slammed his head off the hardwood floor. 🙁 Leaning Tower of Charlie I was simply attempting to photograph C pulling himself to standing and using me as a jungle gym (so I could blog about it, ironically), but instead I ended up earning a membership into the shitty parents club. After a good amount of tears (from both of us), he was ... Read the full post.